65 - That which does not kill us makes us stronger

How to Get Stronger From Your Hardships

A powerful image of a weathered, ancient tree with deep roots, thriving alone on a rocky cliffside, symbolizing strength through adversity.

During my first attempt at running a marathon, I hit "the wall" at mile 20. My legs cramped, my energy vanished, and every part of my body screamed at me to stop. I had to walk the final six miles, and I crossed the finish line feeling utterly defeated. The experience didn't kill me, but at the time, I certainly didn't feel stronger. I felt broken.

However, in the weeks that followed, something shifted. That failure taught me about my physical limits, the importance of proper nutrition, and the mental games a marathon requires. I trained smarter, with more humility and respect for the distance. A year later, I ran the same marathon and finished strong. The initial hardship became the very foundation of my eventual success.

This is the harsh, practical truth behind Friedrich Nietzsche's famous aphorism:

"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."

This quote is not about simply surviving. It's about the process of adaptation and growth that happens when we are pushed to our absolute limits.

The Science of Getting Stronger: Post-Traumatic Growth

Nietzsche's philosophy is supported by a modern psychological concept called post-traumatic growth. This is the idea that people who endure psychological struggle often experience positive growth afterward. The struggle itself acts like a stressor on a muscle; the initial damage forces the mind to rebuild itself in a stronger, more resilient way.

However, there's a crucial condition: the growth is not automatic. The hardship itself doesn't guarantee strength. The strength comes from how you actively process and respond to the hardship.

How to Turn Hardship into Strength: A Practical Guide

If you're in the middle of a difficult situation, you don't have to be a passive victim. You can become an active participant in your own growth. Here's how:

  1. Acknowledge the Pain, Don't Dwell in It: The first step is to accept that the situation is difficult and painful. Don't pretend it doesn't hurt. However, distinguish between acknowledging your pain and letting it become your entire identity. Give yourself a time limit to grieve, then shift your focus to the next step.
  2. Find the Lesson (Even if it's Small): Actively search for the lesson within the hardship. Ask yourself: "What is this situation forcing me to learn?" Maybe it's a lesson in patience, in financial planning, in choosing better friends, or in setting boundaries. The lesson is the raw material for your future strength.
  3. Focus on What You Can Control: In any crisis, there are things you cannot control and things you can. You may not be able to control the economy, a health diagnosis, or someone else's actions. But you can almost always control your response, your attitude, and your next small action. Focus 100% of your energy there.

Conclusion

Hardship is an inevitable part of life. While it is never pleasant, it doesn't have to be a destructive force. As Nietzsche understood, it can be a forge. By actively engaging with our challenges, learning their lessons, and focusing on our response, we can ensure that what doesn't kill us doesn't just leave a scar—it leaves us stronger than we were before.

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